Every Dog Every Day
Living with dogs
We should not be trying to change dogs,
but celebrating what they are and
changing the world in which they live.
Many training strategies and behavioural modification programs aimed at dogs focus on re-shaping dogs to meet the expectation of people.
Many dogs simply cannot cope with this process.
Every Dog Every Day will introduce you to a mindset from which will give you a different view of your dog’s innate behaviours and learn the celebrate what they are and not try to suppress their spirit.
I wish I could write an encyclopaedia of everything you would want to learn about dogs. Maybe one day there will be the technology that can download our brains. In the meantime I would like to share what I consider the most significant elements of bringing you closer to understanding your canine friend.
In my experience of training many thousands of people with dogs the key to a fulfilling relationship is the underlying mindset, not the latest piece of equipment or training solution. When connection between you and your dog becomes the basis of your thoughts and interactions all the components begin to lock together. As a result you will find clear direction in your choices and decisions.
Unfortunately the dog business tends to throw around a whole series of unrelated, well marketed ingredients. People are naturally attracted to the most flavoursome without understanding how all the ingredients play on one another in the cooking process. Science can tell us the process of how a cake made but it takes significant skill to be able to replicate that process over and over again to produce consistently satisfying and exhilarating results for 99% of the eaters.
I am more than familiar with the taste of thousands of cakes and I do not rate the scientifically correct, manufactured cakes over that extra pleasure that comes from one home baked with skill and love. The cake cannot be at fault if you use the “wrong” type of fat, it is how that fat blends with the other ingredients that produces the desired result. The same with living with dogs. A piece of equipment alone cannot solve the problem of the dog pulling on a lead without a blending of your attitude, lifestyle and interactions.
I frequently see people with an over-flowing basket of ingredients that when put together seem to produce something missing in the final tasting. A dissatisfaction that is hard to define. They have all of the components but the bond between the parts is not made. The ingredients have been acquired from non-compatible sources and an attempt has been made to bake them together in conflict.
The gentle person who at home places their dog’s needs as a high priority, but when in public avoidance of embarrassment comes first and they become extremely ungentle. The dog is left in confusion and the result is disconnection with high degree of uncertainty.
I hope I can help you build a tree of deep connection and point you in a more secure direction when making choices about your relationship with your dog.
1. Living with Dogs
All our households are different, all dogs come with a different package of DNA and our relationships are unique.
2. Ethics of living with dogs
The ethics in dog ownership and training are sometimes confusing, I do not suppose ethics are ever straight forward.
3. Dogs can only behave like dogs
We should not be trying to change dogs but change the world in which they live.
Dogs are superb at being who they are.
4. But it is a puppy
Puppies are designed to bring on a shot of pleasure-chemicals that override common sense and risk analysis in people.
5. Relationship and Connection
Connection is about being in tune with each other. …. “why is this person pulling on my neck?”
Dog is not the enemy
6. Teach and train
All dogs have a right to be trained. They will need help to learn how to live alongside us without conflict.
This is our responsibility.
7. Lifestyle: At home
The overall approach to living with dogs.
We breed a type of dog that lives and breathes to share their lives with people.
8. Lifestyle: Out and about
A familiarisation protocol should ensure that a puppy has the time to become familiar with the weird and wonderful life that will be their future.
9. Primary School
Being a puppy is a busy, over-filled learning fest. They excel at being inquisitive and curious. This needs thoughtful and attentive guidance from you.
10. Is good intention enough?
If we are not paying close attention to the experience our puppy or dog is having we can inadvertently set them up for poor experiences.
Kay has been involved in training dogs for over forty years. From teaching lifeskills for all types of dogs to top level sports and working dogs.
Kay leads the way in developing innovative and creative techniques that deliver connection and effective teaching for both dogs and people in a blend of passion, joy and enthusiasm.
The constant thread has been a passion for learning about dogs and effective teaching.