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The Friendly Dog

22 Jan 2023

“It’s okay; he’s friendly”: a phrase that will either make you sigh with relief or grit your teeth in anguish. While on one hand, we may hope for our dogs to be generally unafraid of humans and other animals, on the other we burden them and those with whom they come into contact with the belief that a friendly dog is a good dog.

Being expected to get along with and to accept contact from everyone is not a standard we’d ever set for ourselves. This Live Presentation and 7-day discussion will present new insight into the mindset behind our desire for friendly dogs, unpack some of the theories and protocols, and offer some alternative ways of thinking about the topic.


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Our SEEING WITH NEW EYES Live Presentation and 7-day forum are a unique opportunity to explore understanding to a new level. Learning will revolve around the Live Presentation with recommended reading and a closed Forum for the next 7 days where questions and further discussion can be stretched.


Presentations will be at 1700 GMT/UTC on 22 Jan 2023. Participants can join at 1650 to familiarise with the technology. A camera is not necessary, but please join with your mic muted. This will NOT be recorded but taking notes is definitely encouraged.

The room will be closed at 1705 late arrivals will not be able to join.

Recommended reading before the Presentation will benefit all participants.

Attendance to the Presentation is required for attendance to the Discussions Forum. Slides used in the Presentation will be available to view in the Forum.

Details of the Presentation and recommended reading will be posted in the Forum. This opens 24 hours before the presentation when you will receive an email invitation.


The Presenters are Kay Laurence and Frances McCormack experienced at living and learning with all sorts of collies.

Tighearnan with a few of his best friends. One of the happiest collies alive.

The Discussion Forum

This will be hosted on our Voyage of Discovery: a Discourse Forum.

Very often we need more time to absorb the material and let the important questions rise to the top over a few days. Learning to see with new eyes is often about revisiting our current thinking, listening to alternate voices and measuring it against new ideas. Inevitably doubts will arise and we may need to make adjustment or realise we did not need glasses at all and our view was right on track.

The Forum will be open for 7 days after the presentation. It will then be closed and all posts deleted.

Both Kay and Frances will be attending the forum to continue the discussions, add more material and recommended resources.

This is not an opportunity for private tuition although individual issues can be discussed.

Recommended Reading

Wondering if this is for you? More reading:

The Experienced Dog

This post considers how we may provide positive experiences for our dogs to observe and explore, in order that they may expand their abilities to assess situations and environments while feeling both secure and comfortable.

Heartbeat of Living with Dogs

A blog post that seeks to shift the paradigm from the mindset of adapting dogs to fit our lives and towards  attentiveness to the individual dogs themselves.

Dogs Can Only Behave Like Dogs

A consideration of living with dogs, including some observations on their (right to) social preferences.


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