Nika and the Humans

by | Mar 6, 2023

“It’s lovely that she’s so friendly,” my sister said, wiping her shoes with a tissue as I wince and offered her the enzymatic spray.

“I’m more worried about that friendliness than I am about Tighearnán,” I said, as the latter stood eyeing her up, wondering whether he should swear at her just in case.

“Oh no. Everyone loves a friendly dog. You can bring her everywhere, introduce her to everyone.”

And that – watching the squirming puppy plead to be picked up by this person she’d just met – was when I first understood that that was precisely what I shouldn’t do.

Maybe I should have seen it coming

Her dam wiggled her entire body with delight at our arrival and had there not been T to think of we’d have adopted her immediately without even seeing the puppies. And there was the nose-biting incident, which didn’t exactly testify to Nika’s shyness. In fact, the entire litter bounced between the two new humans they’d just met, wanting to get as much information from them by using as many of their senses as they possibly could.

Nika’s not just a friendly dog, though. Nika’s a dog who is extremely stimulated by novel humans. She tries to climb across metres of air into the arms of any proximal human whether they are, at that moment, available for puppy-holding. Zoom meetings will bring her to my office door where she petitions to be let in to meet the bearers of the voices she hears. Her neck rotates in owlish fashion as she looks around for new people to greet. And my poor sister left the house covered from head to toe in puppy saliva (and the aforementioned enzymatic cleaner) after a canine cross-examination.

Puppy ripping up a box

People find her attention extremely reinforcing (as can be seen in the results of their brief cost-benefit analysis of spending the rest of their day in pee-soaked footwear). “No puppy cuddles for me today?” asked a friend as I called in to see her, this time without the puppy who had scrabbled to get out of my arms to her. “She’s such a lovely little one,” the postman said leaning over the garden wall as a perplexed T looked on, his daily profanities having been interrupted by this violation of the rules he and the postman had agreed upon (some mutual barking and a hasty mutual retreat; I don’t pretend to understand their relationship). My memory of our reaction to her dam – how appealing her desire for social approval was to us – brought with it the realisation that Nika’s world would need to be very carefully managed to guard her against the desire of other people to seek social approval from her as much as her desire to seek social approval from them.

“She’s so cute.”

“Can I say hello to your puppy…?”

It’s extremely flattering.

And she’d likely love it.

But common sense kicks in.

“Can I say hello to your puppy…?”

 “No, sorry.”

That learning, that realisation that many people see puppies as shared objects to be enjoyed by all, and that I was living with a puppy eager to be enjoyed, made me take a step back to recalibrate, to think about what I want for her and what I want her to learn.

My advocacy for her, initially, didn’t account for the hands that just appeared as if from nowhere to touch her, inadvertently brushing off me as they did. But I quickly learned not to go to places where that’s likely to happen, and I’ve been practising protecting her space by blocking her with my body in case it does again.

Puppy ripping up a box

T, in many ways, was so different at her age: uncertain of unfamiliar humans, he wanted to get distance from them. And so I supported him in that, prioritising his feeling of safeness over the socialisation checklists and talk of “windows of development” that I’d been taught to believe were the most important thing in raising dogs. Every decision I made against the experts, although in accordance with my own instincts and what he was communicating, felt like another step down a dangerous path. But my gut ruled, and as we grew together I knew I had done the right thing by him; by us.

But in some ways, he’s not so different; in many ways, their learning will take a similar course.

I don’t want Nika to learn that the world is full of humans who offer her the reward of the sensory exploration of novelty that close proximity affords, or the social approval she finds so appealing. In that version of her future, Nika would likely spend a significant proportion of her time outdoors seeking those novel sensations and that approval from others. I want her to learn, just like T did, that strangers exist, and that they are irrelevant to us. Since I have a duty of care to define the limits of her world to keep her safe, this means that it would be as inappropriate as it was for T to bring her out and about with the express purpose of meeting strangers.

Instead, just as with T, I am striving to channel Nika’s learning to provide positive and safe learning experiences through observation. I am building on that eagerness for learning by providing ample opportunities for introducing her to novelty at home. Her desire for social approval is met primarily by those with whom she lives, but also by those with whom she will form relationships – family, close friends, and, when she visits for treatment, her veterinary team.

These are the only people on whose shoes she’ll get the chance to pee with delight.

Wet shoes

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Key Reading

Don’t Let Them Learn

Becoming aware that we share our lives with premier learners, dogs, is about saving you frustration, despair, anxiety and endless hours further down the road.

The Experienced Dog

Knowing your dog has receive sufficient preparation does not mean every eventuality, but a range of different conditions so that when the unexpected happens they will draw on their skills and solve the issue.

Back to Basics?

The word “basic” is often derided as synonymous with “shallow,” but in its origins it is the very opposite: foundational, profound, supportive.

The Value of Experience

The non-experienced, or current generation of imposters, have attended a course, read a book, got a certificate and have yet to gain experience to deepen their knowledge or understanding of the subject, protocol, method …

The Whole of The Dog

We cannot divide training into compartments of fast recalls, or sit for greeting, or loose leads as everything we ask of the dogs is interrelated.

50 years a student of sheepdogs

In recognition of my half-century of being a student of collies I want to celebrate their skills as masters of my learning.

Location is Their Cue

We begin teaching the dog to go to a target, such as a mat or platform and in this process our focus is on the outcome – the dog can place feet on the object or settle down. But at the same time this learning is happening the dog is also noting the location: where this is happening in this room, in the house, relative to the food-machine (you).

In praise of naughty dogs

.. a desire for solutions to problems that weren’t problems until someone else outside of the relationship suggested they were.

Play Health Check

When we look at play or food delivery as an ACTIVITY we share the same mindset as the dog: is there pleasure to be experienced?

Shaping by rewards

When I see a dog showing a behaviour that is heading towards potential conflict, my first question is “what rewards are available?”

Top Training

Duration or is it Breakfast in Bed?

Teaching duration has become a very muddied understanding or what it is and how to teach it. This is partly due to how we use words that are the same but have entirely different meanings.

Not all lures contain food

“the direct use of the reinforcer to elicit the behaviour”
This should always be foremost in our mind, in that many alternatives lures are available.

Preparation

Preparing before you train and the final check list

Release cue or stay cue

Many of us begin with teaching sit or down, and this is one of the earliest experiences of training with reinforcement. Is the sit, or down, going to be a terminal behaviour, or a temporary position?

Reasons to use a clicker

The concept of “being a clicker trainer” is always going to lead to argument and misunderstanding because it cannot exist alongside the science and technology. It is a “fakery” of our time. The clicker itself is a simple tool that when used in conjunction with technology provides clarity and understanding in teaching.

Nose Target. No thanks

Nose target is a popular behaviour taught to many dogs, and other animals. It seems easy to teach and have practical application, but it is often not such a pleasant experience for all dogs. There are many other options available that give the same practical benefit, without the unpleasant extremes.

Obnoxious Puppy

The delight of your new puppy is probably going to last a few weeks, maybe four if you are lucky. When 12 weeks old hits, and you will feel a slam, the Delight is going to demonstrate ungrateful, obnoxious traits.

A Day of Learning

A no-training day does not mean he gets a lazy day lying idly in the sun. Learning is still happening and this is significant and important for his development.

Surprising Puppy

Surprising Puppy. With obnoxious moments. After introducing the obnoxious puppy as a youngster I am knocked over by the Delightful Young Man he is turning into……

Stop doing that ….

Can we teach an effective Cease That Behaviour? Absolutely. We can teach that positively, without harm, and we should teach them the skills of stopping that and doing this instead.

1 Comment

  1. Sabine

    This is so interesting. My English shepherd is more like T and I manage him as she does for T, BUT I think that some of his behaviours may occasionally be overstimulation as described for Nikki, except that he’s conflicted about the human. So he may want to move with intensity towards the object of his fear. I find that confusing.

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