photo: Leslie Bosserman

Positive connection is the process of growing together on the basis of mutual respect for each other’s needs. It develops through listening to each other, social interaction, clear communication and common experiences and learning.

For me, connection is a dynamic product
of three ingredients:
an emotional bond, memory
and mental focus.

The first two components lay the strong foundation, whereas the third one can be switched on and off, depending on the situation.

However,  connection doesn’t necessarily need to be positive. It can be neutral or even negative. As soon as an individual interacts in a specific way with another individual’s environment, causing a specific, repeated response, there is already a connection between the two of them.

Since connection is a dynamic quantity, it can change with varying parameters and time, Such variables can affect the three components – emotion, memory and mental focus significantly.

But we’d better reconsider the connection with our dogs in advance. Everyday life makes it evident too often, that emotions cannot be transformed completely and memories cannot be erased, no matter how elegant we counter condition. Even if some people tend to measure connection mainly by its most visible component alone – the mental focus, in my opinion, it is much more far-reaching than a temporary synchronicity of minds during sports, work or leisure activities.”

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  1. Iris Maxfield

    “Positive connection is the process of growing together on the basis of mutual respect”
    I think this is so true in a teacher/student relationship.

    “Everyday life makes it evident too often, that emotions cannot be transformed completely and memories cannot be erased”
    I believe this is also very sad but very true, memories can shape a lifetime of triggered emotions.

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of yogis, dogs and humans

Connection, as expression of trust, relationship, and finally of the deep attraction, which develops so easily between dogs and their human fellows, stains every single interaction and can be used as a potent reinforcer.

Connection starts with invitation

Connection thrives in the absence of expectations, a precious freedom that fills the space between two beings when there is no agenda, no time limit, no “have to get it done.”

Connection is a dynamic quantity

Connection is a dynamic product of three ingredients: an emotional bond, memory and mental focus.

A deep trust and love for each other

I learnt about connection with my horse Magnum. He was untouchable when he came to us, caught wild, taken to the sales – and ended up with us – because my daughter fell in love with him.

A lesson in connection

At first, it barely made it through the door. But it kept tapping and when I let it in, it had connection written all over it. It surprises me that it is a lesson I need repeated so often.

Feeling comfortable

We take time to train, but how connected are we as their trainer?

What does connection look like?

It comes in many forms. Walking together, sitting quietly together, sharing a mental or physical task. Individuals can be connected without looking at each other; just feeling each other’s presence is perhaps the strongest type of connection. These activities can all be done with or without connection, but with connection they appear fluent.

Connection: A Conversation for Life

In the busy-ness of life connection can be the last thing considered. Living with a dog is about developing a relationship and all successful relationships are based on connection.
So just what is connection and why is it important?

Connection is reinforcing

Dogs will often choose how they maintain their connection with you. This connection, the thread that binds the pack, is an invisible and easily dismissible element. Connection is not black and white, it comes in lots of shades of colour and intensity and it is developed between both recipients.

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